18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” 21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. 22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man.23 “At last!” the man exclaimed.“This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh!She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’”24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
~Genesis 2:18,21-24~
So here I am today almost 9 years married to my wonderful husband and know that we have a long way ahead of us. There are still so many things we will go through and so many more decisions we will have to make. A couple of weeks ago something interesting happened that I would like to share with you.
We had a very busy day. Everyone was up, my husband had already left for work, the boys were making their beds, our usual routine in the morning. Then schooling. Lunch. Sunshine was up from his nap. Lunchtime for Sunshine while the boys played outside. Errands. Food shopping. Finally I am home. Now it was time to make dinner. So as I am in the kitchen, boys are running around (all 3 of them), I am looking at the chicken and my phone rings. It's my husband. I answer it and he lets me know that he is on his way home. So I quickly season the chicken and decide it is going to be a BBQ dinner night (that's right I don't have all together)! With the boys running around I quickly send them outside to play, that way this Momma can get a little quiet time (not as in read my bible!.. just 5 minutes of quiet!).
I started making the rice and quickly thought "yay, he's coming... okay when he comes he can...". I knew right then, it was the Holy Spirit speaking to me..."go brush your teeth." YES! That 's right BRUSH YOUR TEETH! So of course, being obedient, I did. On my way to the bathroom, I saw my husband was already in the driveway. SO I quickly ran, brushed and looked in the mirror. This is what I heard "become his bride again!". What seemed like minutes were seconds, I looked at myself, and to be honest I was not looking all to sharp, if you know what I mean. So I quickly fixed my hair, fixed myself up and spritzed some perfume on me.
Ran back to the kitchen and put myself in position at the counter, as if I were there the whole time looking as good as I did! My husband walks in and looks at me and says (not even joking), "Hellooo....reina... (comes over to me and puts his arms around me)...you look like my bride!" And kissed me. I, of course, smile and feel all giddy inside. But I couldn't believe he said "I looked like his bride".
And that is when I understood what I needed to do. Become his bride again, the suitable helper God created me to be for him. I had let my responsibilities, come before him. Yes, I am called to be a mother and the keeper of my home, but what about my husband. I had stopped preparing myself for him, thinking about our relationship, being his "bride". My husband loves when I look pretty (meaning not looking like I rolled out of bed ALL DAY!) because he knows I took time for myself and in doing that I took time to think about him. He loves when I ask him if we can have a movie night after the boys are in bed. He loves when I take care of myself and when I take time to respond to what he wants from me. I want to be "just right for him" ALL the TIME!
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Monica this is Awesome, I have written one post on our marriage and I was just thinking of writing more. You are amazing, My husband really likes it when I get out of my pajama's.LOL :)
ReplyDeleteGreat post Monica! I like what you said,"he knows I took time for myself and in doing that I took time to think about him"-so true.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for linking up. I can completely relate to this post. Feeling a little shabby at the moment. Luckily I have a few hours yet : )
ReplyDeleteMonica...thank you for the link up. I added your link up to my blog link up page as well. Excellent post, too! Thank you for the encouragement.
ReplyDeleteI'm excited about this link-up! Thank you!
ReplyDeleteGreat post! And, don't you love it when God gives you such amazing confirmation?
ReplyDeleteI'll be sure to check out your link up thanks! Thanks for glorifying God in your marriage.
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I LOVED this story! God is so awesome in how He not only speaks to us, but affirms through others what he was saying!
ReplyDeleteHi Monica - such great advice. I have been married 24 yrs and every bit of advice that is Godly is welcome. Your words are so true. God bless and thank you for linking this post up
ReplyDeleteTracy
oh what a great reminder!! And loving our spouse and showing that love is also the best thing we can demonstrate to our children! I too am blessed with a beautiful marriage.
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Happy Anniversary!