Sunday, May 6, 2012

5 Words for My Husband & Marriage Link-Up

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"Kind words are like honey, sweet to the taste and good for your health" ~ Proverbs 16:24

The Lord taught me a powerful lesson about the power of my words, through my husband the other day.  I was having such a busy day and the boys were seriously not cooperating with me... they were having such an off day!  I called my husband to inform him about a letter that came in the mail about our business insurance (ps- I am also my husbands secretary!).  I just needed to inform him about one thing and he started to ask questions (ahhh!!!).  I could not talk too much, but knew this was really important.  So I listened and tried to respond.  He could hear that I was getting a little "annoyed" with all the questions and I was giving him very quick short answers (I can't believe I am confessing this!) ... and as I started to get  a little heated ... there was a brief moment of silence on the other side of the phone... and he said "I love you mamsita (that is what he calls me sometimes)"... my whole being came back down to earth, my heart sank... I suddenly had a HUGE SMILE on my face... and then responded.... "I love you too.."

In that moment the Lord simply showed me the power of my words over my husband.  What I say to my husband and how I say it (the attitude behind my words) will affect him, his heart, his attitude, his day and everything that he does.  My husband changed my day with his sweet words of love.  Three simple words that held a lot of power, but I knew where they were coming from. He made the Godly choice to speak in love. He could have responded back with a bad attitude but he didn't - he CHOSE to honor God by speaking and giving love to his wife.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.        ~ Proverbs 18:21
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. ~Ephesians 4:29
Our words have everything to do with where our heart is.  If I seek the Lord and His love,  I can give love to my husband.  But if I depend on myself, the only thing that my husband will and can receive is my fleshly attitude.

I ask the Lord, that my words will always be sweet like honey.  That everything I say to my husband will bring him "good health".... that the attitude behind my words would build him up and not tear him down. That my words would be filled with love, bringing him blessings and honor.  The words I say to my husband will not evaporate.  They contain power.   In those brief moments of desperation, frustration and tiredness that may come from my day, I make a commitment to be mindful and intentional about speaking in love to my husband.

I want to be swarmed with bees because my mouth is so sweet!

The 5 powerful words in marriage: "I LOVE YOU...I'M SORRY"

"Kind words can be short and sweet, but their echoes are truly endless"~Mother Teresa

What the Word says about the power of words:
When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.                     ~ Proverbs 10:19
 Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.                      ~ Proverbs 12:18 
A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered. ~ Proverbs 17:27 
**Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise. ~ Proverbs 17:28 
A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.
~ Proverbs 15:4
For His Glory and By His Grace,

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  1. Preach it sister! So glad you linked your post to Marital Oneness Mondays! I know it will bless many.

  2. Wonderful wisdom as Always Monica! Your post are truly amazing very thought provoking and encouraging. I do not have a marriage post...I will try to write one for next week! By the way is the link-up button your wedding pic?

    1. HI Tesha - thank you for your encouraging words... yes, that is one of my wedding pics. I like to use pics of us to make it more all that you have done for momma's day! so beautiful.
      Bless you!

  3. Monica, thank you for passing by Far Above Rubies. It's so good to meet you and read your words of wisdom.

    God bless you.

  4. Monica...sweet friend...I know all too well what you write about here. The Lord is quick to speak to my heart when I am not speaking to my husband in an honoring way. Yes, even I still mess up. Its a reminder that we are works in progress and that God is faithful to complete what He has started in us. Thank you for such a great post and for sharing at WJIM.

  5. Not only is this sweet (literally and figuratively) but it is incredibly practical. Thanks for this reminder!! I know I am one to get frustrated/annoyed with my beloved sometimes, and my words tend to be less than sweet. (Can you say word vomit?) So glad I stopped by from Winsome Wednesday! Blessings!

  6. Found you via WLWW. :)

    So glad I did too!! This is a FANTASTIC reminder. My mom had me copy down, over and over, a lot of those Bible verse when I was tongue has often been a trouble to me. I'm constantly learning how to speak in ways that encourage and build up my husband--which is one thing I actually wrote about in the post I linked up. :) Thanks for writing and for hosting the link-up! Glad I ran across your blog!

  7. I'm visiting from Hearts 4 Home! Love this post because I can so easily identify with what happened between you and your husband. I have always been a "debater" (argumentative might be more accurate). The Lord has tempered that in me over the past 20 years, but if I were married to a contentious man, I'm afraid my life would be full of "debate." As it is, the Lord has given me a husband who has no interest in any kind of argument. We simply don't fight and never have! But if I am feeling irritated, my husband so easily diffuses my edginess with humor and kindness that I think it has rubbed off on me a bit too! God knows what he's doing! Thanks again for the reminder!

  8. I love this post...I know times that my husband's sweet words have turned my whole attitude right side up again. And I've even seen grouchy store clerks respond to kind words. Our words truly bring healing or pain. Thanks for sharing this post on B&BB. I pray blessings on your family and your blog ministry. And I plan to come back and link up on Monday here with a marriage post. Thanks, Gail

  9. Thank you for this post. I have sometime wanted to smack my own mouth with the things I say .... sweet as honey will be my new first thought...thank you.

  10. thank you for this post and hop...I had an eye opening marriage week...and this is timely!!

  11. Thank you for the link-up! you are a marvelous hostess :)



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