I went to the Lord this morning and just told Him all that was on my heart. I told Him that I don't want to subconsciously and consciously blame my boys for my frustrations and lack of patience. The loss of a sweet sister and daughter was not their fault. I do miss Gabriella. And I have to admit that I should have spoken about her more and how I felt then. I feel that all my frustrations and lack of patience with my boys are a result of lingering pain that I had not fully given to the Lord.
When I think of all my boys I just want to see and feel JOY! I want my heart to rejoice because I have them. I want to tear down that wall of hurt when I approach them and speak to them. I want to hug them more, love them more, find out who they are, enjoy the days with them. My husband says to me daily, "enjoy them and love them today!". And, honestly, I used to just say, "okay" and in my mind thought, but "HOW??!! Someone tell me how??!!" They mark such a painful moment in my life that they did not choose or have any fault. I put that mark on them and sadly they have no clue I have. They must wonder, "will, I ever make mommy happy?". My poor children. I know that they have gone through a lot.
BUT NO MORE!! This morning I went before the Lord and begged, poured out my heart, to fill me with His love, so that I may pour it into their lives. I INTENTIONALLY LOVED THEM TODAY!! Please do not misunderstand me, I love my children, I would give anything for them, but I have not been enjoying them, enjoying watching them grow; I have been so distracted by everything else that I haven't taken the time to look at the glow in their eyes when they make a discovery. I have shooed them away when they want to tell me something, because I was busy. I feel I have missed out on so much! BUT NO MORE!
I have crucified my frustrations, lack of patience, feelings of hurt and pain, the whys and should haves to the cross. I will no longer go back. I will look at my children, including Gabriella, as a blessing. I will pour my life and love into them. They are each special children of the Lord; I will treat them as such.
I asked the Lord this morning to tell me how to do this and this was his answer:
5 “Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing. 6 Anyone who does not remain in me is thrown away like a useless branch and withers. Such branches are gathered into a pile to be burned. 7 But if you remain in me and my words remain in you, you may ask for anything you want, and it will be granted! 8 When you produce much fruit, you are my true disciples. This brings great glory to my Father. ~John 15:5-8~This was His answer, REMAIN IN ME and I WILL REMAIN IN YOU! The only way I will see a change in me is by choosing Him. Seeking Him. Meditating on Him. It is not about changing my children's personalities, attitudes and character, it is about accepting God's will in my life, accepting the children He has given me, accepting that He has Gabriella, stop blaming me, my children and my husband for our loss. Accepting that Gabriella is and will always be my daughter even though she is not with me. I have to enjoy and think about those precious moments that I had her and rejoice. One day I will join her.
I want to share the MOST PRECIOUS MOMENT that we had with Gabriella. I praise the Lord because He allowed us the opportunity to dedicate her to the Lord before she passed away. In the video you will see my father, who is our Pastor dedicating his first and only granddaughter. This was actually his first baby dedication, so you can imagine how special it is for him. The dedication was in spanish, but I think you can feel the presence of God in the room. Before viewing the videos please pause the music at the bottom of the blog.
I pray that you were blessed. If you want to share this post please do not copy the videos. These are personal videos that I am sharing. You may share the link to this post and whoever wants to view it can watch from here. Thank you for understanding.
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If you have grieved a child please take time to encourage other Momma's. If you have never written about your loss, I pray that by visiting other's blogs you are encouraged and blessed.
There are no rules to this link-up. I just want it to be a place where Momma's can be encouraged and blessed. I would like for us to fellowship weekly. Each week, as the Lord lays on my heart, I will post certain things we Momma's go through/deal with during grieving, and as always share the Word. This is how the Lord has led me to do this link-up. Really it is a time of fellowship where we can gather to pray together and comfort each other. I hope you would join me and this blog for fellowship.